Sometimes we can find that our relationships can take a bit of a beating. It isn’t something we intend to happen, after all, marriage or a commitment of having children together is something that we don’t take lightly. However, the strain of life in general and having children can take its toll on the relationship, which in turn can mean that you start to worry of the cracks are starting to show, and if they are repairable or not. I wanted to share with you some of the changes that you could make to your relationship to help you smooth over the cracks.
Go on date nights
One of the obvious ways that you can rekindle the romance in your relationship is to start thinking about date nights. Going on a date together takes you right back to the beginning of the relationship where you are expecting the unexpected and getting to know one another. It gives you a reason to spend time together, a chance to dress up for one another, and actually take the time to plan and prepare for a date night. It could be a nice meal out, a day trip somewhere, a coffee date or even a date at home when the children are in bed. Lighting the candles and actually making an effort with one another every once and a while will really help you remember the reasons you fell in love in the first place.
Communication is one of the biggest issues many couples have these days. They struggle to actually talk to one another, and when they do the topics of conversation are probably the same. It will be about logistics and the children. Am I right? So don’t let that be an issue for you and instead take the time to enquire about the other person’s day. It could be that you show an interest or actually talk about yourself as well. It could make a big difference to how the other person feels.
Don’t take drastic action just yet
When the cracks start to show, it can be so tempting to think that the relationship is doomed. You can start to think about other options like divorce or separation and even consider calling the family law solicitors to get the ball rolling. Of course, this may be a viable option and certainly may be better for the whole family, but before you take drastic action, make sure that you start to think about some of the ways you can try and repair the situation first.
Find some common ground once more
Finally, if you feel like you have nothing to talk about, then why not think about trying to get some common ground between you once more? Maybe you could start a hobby together, or get invested into a boxset on the TV. Whatever it is, finding the common ground gives you something to talk about and move forward with.
I hope that these tips help you when it comes to making some changes to your relationship.
** This is a contributed post **