Did you feel comfortable when you decided to stop having more children? Back when Phil and I were discussing our plans to start a family we had pretty much decided to have four.
Then we had one.
Our gorgeous, funny, incredibly clever little dude is frankly amazing. He’s also the most challenging child I’ve ever cared for outside of those with behavioural conditions. This has been backed up by several other people and anyone who has said “Oh it’s always harder with your first/boys/redheads” is met with a look that implies the response I haven’t quite got the nerve to actually say.
We adore our son, but when pregnant with Martha we knew that, all being well, we would be stopping at two.
I had two healthy (all things considered) pregnancies, two absolutely incredible births and we have two healthy and wonderful children. We both, however, suffered emotionally an awful lot on the back of Toby’s silent reflux and high needs personality – I ended up with postnatal depression after Martha’s arrival as I processed how much harder it had been to bond with Toby. My body suffered physically in Martha’s pregnancy with excruciating hip and pelvic pain known as PGP.
The desire for a larger family has been outweighed now and it’s not just about the struggles at all – it’s also about how bloody happy we are with our little family! With Martha about to turn 1 and Toby’s 3rd birthday not far behind, we absolutely love getting out and enjoying family time; Exploring, having adventures, Phil and Toby work on the allotment, we scoot, we walk, we play, we picnic.
It’s not perfect, but it’s perfect for us
Plus, we don’t create good sleepers and the thought of another decade of sleep deprivation from waiting a few years then having two more babies, is quite frankly terrifying!
So I have a question for you, which I’ve asked over on a new discussion platform called Qutee. It’s free to sign up and you can get involved with loads of parenting-related discussions on the Parenting 101 hub – click to get involved with my Qutee about stopping at two.
I’d love to know if you knew when you were ready to stop having children, or have you not reached that point? How many do you have?
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