When we announced our second pregnancy – and pretty much every day since the announcement – we’ve had mixture of “Oh how lovely they’ll be close in age” and “Ooooh, you’ll have your hands full”. I think both are fairly accurate but having my hands full is a small price to pay as long as our children have a bond; Someone remind me of that in 3 to 4 months when I’m tearing my hair out!
A sibling bond is a wonderful thing and it isn’t dependant upon the age gap, but Phil and I always planned to have our children fairly close together. I’m close to my brother, who is 2 1/2 years younger than me. We don’t pick up the phone pretty much ever but we would always have one another’s back, we have a laugh when we’re together and growing up we rarely fell out and never to any serious extent.
Toby will only be around 21 months old when Baby Girl is born so he doesn’t really understand what’s going on, but we have told him since we had our first scan that our baby is in Mummy’s tummy and now that I have a very well established bump, Toby is completely adorable about it! At least once a day he’ll come over to me when I’m catching a few minutes on the sofa and he’ll lift my top up, say “Baby”, then kiss and cuddle my bump.
Tobes knows a baby when he sees one and absolutely loves them, he has learned the fact that there’s a baby in Mummy’s tummy but the true understanding – and hopefully sibling bond – will come when Baby Girl is here in person. All Phil and I can do is hope that those cuddles and kisses continue when his sister arrives, albeit hopefully without the prods and headbutts my poor bump also endures at times!
Whatever happens over their lifetimes Toby has a younger sister, Baby Girl has an older brother and the extent of their bond will be what it will be, however we will nurture it in any way that we possibly can.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth
I’m linking up with both Living Arrows and My Wild Ones this week, celebrating our children and their adventures!