It doesn’t bother me when people ask. People will always ask and I think it’s just starting conversation but like you, I know I’m done. 3 is our number. I know I will miss some of the baby days, but on the same hand, I’m looking forward to Bridget walking, her and Pais being out of nappies, that full nights sleep I often hear about. I want my body back and wear proper bras with out my boobs having to be accessible. I want to enjoy the children I’ve created and to some extent, being pregnant stopped me doing that. It was so incredibly hard and I can’t go through that again.
So, I’m with you. I’m done.
I’ll admit, it really does bother me when people ask this question. I know they mean well, I know it’s just the usual question people ask parents with less than 2.4 children but (1) it just reminds me that we have been trying for 3 years and are still babyless and (2) I feel like they’re sort of saying that Lily isn’t enough? I know that’s silly but she is my everything and I feel complete just with her. I don’t need ‘one of each’ (however nice I imagine that is!) We are not lacking, we are not missing anything, we are happy as we are. And if we do ever get that positive test and a baby that sticks then happy days!
Society needs to find other questions to ask because you don’t know how somebody is feeling underneath their smile or what’s going on behind closed doors whether that’s miscarriages, disagreements over the amount of children or even PND or struggles with parenting as it is anyway. F**k the standard stock questions, let’s engage with people properly and personally!
Hi! I'm Hannah, a 30-year-old wife to Phil and Mummy to Toby - born July 2014, and Martha - born May 2016.
I love music, reading, travelling and my gorgeous life with Phil, Toby and Martha in the countryside. We live in a cottage with our cat Ivy and the sounds of hundreds of birds overhead.
http://nancynorthcott.jim-mcdonald.net/2008/01/ Leslie Rickerby / MessyBlog 18th April 2018 at 11:05 pm
It doesn’t bother me when people ask. People will always ask and I think it’s just starting conversation but like you, I know I’m done. 3 is our number. I know I will miss some of the baby days, but on the same hand, I’m looking forward to Bridget walking, her and Pais being out of nappies, that full nights sleep I often hear about. I want my body back and wear proper bras with out my boobs having to be accessible. I want to enjoy the children I’ve created and to some extent, being pregnant stopped me doing that. It was so incredibly hard and I can’t go through that again.
So, I’m with you. I’m done.
Also.. I wanted all boys too lol
Lucy Melissa Smith 22nd April 2018 at 3:48 pm
I’ll admit, it really does bother me when people ask this question. I know they mean well, I know it’s just the usual question people ask parents with less than 2.4 children but (1) it just reminds me that we have been trying for 3 years and are still babyless and (2) I feel like they’re sort of saying that Lily isn’t enough? I know that’s silly but she is my everything and I feel complete just with her. I don’t need ‘one of each’ (however nice I imagine that is!) We are not lacking, we are not missing anything, we are happy as we are. And if we do ever get that positive test and a baby that sticks then happy days!
Society needs to find other questions to ask because you don’t know how somebody is feeling underneath their smile or what’s going on behind closed doors whether that’s miscarriages, disagreements over the amount of children or even PND or struggles with parenting as it is anyway. F**k the standard stock questions, let’s engage with people properly and personally!