Welcome to day 9 of this year’s A to Z Challenge! I wrote about why I chose ‘Self Care’ as my theme for the challenge and I’m really enjoying writing about it during April. Today’s letter is ‘I’ so my self care word is ‘I’.
Nope, that’s not a mistake! When you’re planning the weekly food shop think “What would I like to eat?”. When life is getting a bit crazy, ask yourself “What do I need to get through this?” It’s not a case of being selfish, or of never looking out for others, but a case of also ensuring that you look out for yourself.
Tomorrow I turn 39 weeks pregnant and we are also, in theory, moving house within the next fortnight. Toby isn’t sleeping very well, there’s housework, blog stuff, admin stuff, packing… need I continue? I am a fiercely independent person and have a very bad habit of pushing myself until I break. This hasn’t been as prevalent since I’ve been with Phil, but the words “I can do it” still come rolling off my tongue when really, I can’t. Or at least I shouldn’t.
So what do I need to do right now? Well quite frankly I need to grow and birth this baby because Phil, my mum, our cleaner, my friends… None of them can do that for me! What they can do, is pack, clean, run around after Toby and the other bits that I would love to be able to take full control of myself, but simply cannot do so. Food-wise, we’re all about the convenience for a while as we prepare to meet our daughter and to move house. That’s right, I’ve been up with Toby since 4:45am, I’m heavily pregnant and I’m not cooking every damn meal from scratch!
These things don’t have to be huge, but if we don’t look after ourselves then we will fall at some point and that will lead to us not looking after others. Phil is the most supportive husband a girl could have and lately I’ve felt so useless, but I need extra rest, I can’t lift heavy boxes, I can bring our daughter into the world. Phil can keep working full time, he can pack the boxes and he can’t bring our daughter into the world, so he and I are both looking after me as well as our children, with whatever help is offered!
What about you? Do you consider your own needs alongside those of others? When’s the last time you did something because you needed it? Let me know in the comments below or get in touch on Facebook or Twitter.